Believe You are Enough
Happy Sunday and happy April!! I love to write my blog posts about things that are applicable to my life right now. I do this because as life goes on, I learn lessons that I want to share and that I am passionate about. I think it is important to share what we know and what we have learned with others so we can take all the knowledge into account and make decisions from there. I also think it is so easy to forget what we know when bad things happen. When obstacles arise or situations get hard, all the work we have put into self love and being our best self can easily run away. If you need this reminder like I needed this past week, here it is.
In working towards your best self, you must come to terms with the fact that this is a forever journey. It is not linear and sometimes it will feel like taking one step forward and ten steps back. I want you all to know that everything does truly happen for a reason and the path you are on now is the path you are supposed to be on. I recently said this in an Instagram story, but I want you to start paying attention to timing. If something not so good happens and you question why, keep your eyes peeled for what may happen next in the chain of events. For some situations it will take years, for others it will take hours. What may seem like the worst thing to ever happen, could transform into the best thing to ever happen.
Have faith in what you can’t control. I have spent so much of my life worrying about the things I can’t control. Whether it be the reactions of other people, what my future holds, etc. Instead of spending time and energy worrying about the things you have no power to change, start putting that energy into you. When you put energy into yourself and loving yourself fully, you can sleep soundly knowing you are doing all that is in your power.
Self love is hard. We are our hardest critics. However, self love is important. It is important to start believing that you are enough. We often look to others for external validation of being enough. We look to people to tell us we are pretty or tests to tell us we are smart. It is human nature to want these things, but let’s start creating internal validation. Be proud of yourself for your accomplishments. Be proud of the work you put in rather than the outcome. Love yourself so much and embrace who you are. Live your authentic life instead of trying to live for someone else.
When we believe we are enough we live our lives with joy. We don’t let others tear us down and realize that if others don’t notice how amazing we are, they don’t deserve us. Stop surrounding yourself with people who tear you down and don’t cheer you on. Those around you should be happy for your wins and there for you for your losses.
There will always be people saying negative things or putting you in bad situations. It is perfectly ok to feel sad and mad, but loving yourself allows the happiness to comeback shortly thereafter. Sometimes the issue is you and we need to love ourselves enough to want to change into a better version. Trying to become our highest self, we have to use self-reflection to understand if we were in the wrong and how we can fix that. If you believe you have done right by your morals, values, and standards, then you have to shake it off. In this case, know that you aren’t the problem. Many times people tear you down because of their own insecurities and that is on them. I know it hurts, but it is not in your control and you must release it. I live by the saying, “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” It may feel like it is slowly killing you, but you will soon rise above it.
To love yourself and to believe you are enough, you actively have to put in the work. Self affirmations, self-reflection, being your true self, surrounding yourself with positive people, taking the steps to be who you want to be. These are all things you can do to work on yourself.
Please please please don’t hide yourself, don’t dim your light because of the people around you or because you feel scared. Growth is scary. Change is scary. Most of all, being unique is scary. Let me tell you, it is so beyond worth it.
Believe you are enough because you are. You will always be enough. Now you need to believe that.