Stop Picking Yourself Apart

Women, men, old, young, light, dark, it doesn’t matter who you are, we all pick ourselves apart observing the smallest most minute details and finding a problem. We constantly search for the next detail to obsess over and destroy, like lions searching for deer slowly but surely tearing them apart layer after layer. Our self confidence diminishes, but it’s still there. It is still salvageable. If we reverse the hate and turn it into love we can flourish. 

Not only does our confidence shrink, but all of the sudden it seems the world hates us. We can’t win. Nothing goes the way we want it to. When you change how you speak to yourself and what you think about yourself, your outlook on the world changes too. The inside is a reflection of the outside. The nicer you are to yourself, the better the world seems to be. Once you start being nicer to yourself you will want to be nicer to others. When we pick ourselves apart, we may start picking others apart too. We do this to feel better about our own insecurities. We want to be “better,” but why? Why does it matter? Instead, can you think of all of the positives about yourself, the world, and others?

We are the root of everything. When you are mean to yourself you are probably less kind to others and have a more negative view of the world. How amazing would it be if we all lifted one another up? We could start to notice how pretty someone’s hair is or how cute their outfit is. We can share that with them. We can begin to tell others the positives we see and soon they will see it too. Then, they will do the same. We can create this domino effect of kindness where instead of needing a reason to be kind to others we just do it. We do it because it will make them feel good and because life is too short. 

Think about how much time you spend hating on yourself. Thinking about all of the details that you want to change or tweak. Think of how much energy that soaks up. Think of how you could use that energy instead. Energy is a finite resource that we must conserve. Energy isn’t only used in working out, but also in thinking, conversing, being, etc. Give your brain peace. Allow yourself to take a freaking breath without judging every ounce of who you ate. Can we just be for one minute? Breathe in what you need and breathe out what you want to release. You are enough. You have always been enough. Can you believe it to be true? 

Reversing the vocabulary that has been ingrained in our minds won’t be easy. You have to put the constant effort in. When a negative thought begins to creep up, acknowledge it and let it go. Counter it with more and more kind thoughts. 

Think about all of the times a prized memory or experience has been dulled because of how you thought of yourself. Don’t let precious time be consumed by evil thoughts. Make the change. Use your energy to deter mean thoughts and boost yourself up.